Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Florida State University Rape Survivor Speaks Out

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By Crime Watch Daily

"It was Halloween, so a lot of students were out getting ready for parties that night," said Kassie Edwards. "So there weren't too many people. There was nobody on that floor actually when I walked in. So the lights came on and I noticed a man in a hoodie and he walked past me, and then I walked to the shelf where I started shelving books.

"He came back down my aisle, that's when he put his arm around my neck and he raped me," said Edwards. "I was going to scream but he put his hand over my mouth. He said 'Don't say nothing' and then he pointed to his waist pocket as if he had a gun.

"He made me count backwards from 100 and he told me not to say anything to anybody, and then he took my ID badge and then he left," said Edwards.

She had been savagely attacked for almost 30 excruciating minutes in a deserted library corridor. That experience became even more terrifying once Edwards reported it to police and found out who raped her.
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"I was able to obtain warrants for him for sexual battery with a firearm," saidLeon County Sheriff's Sgt. Wiley Meggs.

Cops say Edwards's bravery helped them track down her attacker. Thoughrape kits across the nation often sit idle, DNA from hers was tested quickly and the results ultimately led to a dangerous assailant who had victimized others.

Haywood Henry was more of a monster than they ever imagined.

"He murdered his girlfriend," said Edwards.

"She was shot in the back of the head with a sawed-off shotgun," said Sgt. Meggs.

The victim, Mileah Lindsey, was Henry's girlfriend. She was found dead by her young child in the home she shared with Henry.

Henry was only 19 at the time, but as the police investigation revealed, he's done a lot of damage in his young life as a serial rapist.

"Hayward Henry was very angry, very violent, he was always armed when he went out," said Sgt. Meggs. "One lady that he raped he beat so brutally she was almost unrecognizable."

One underage victim told police that Henry actually showed remorse while assaulting her.

"She began to cry and told him that she had been raped prior and did not want to have to live through that kind of experience again, so he apologized and stopped," said Meggs.

"I would have periods where I relived what happened to me over and over again, and it felt like it was fresh new trauma," said Edwards.

Until he was caught.

"He had broken into another house in the neighborhood and was hiding in a closet," said Sgt. Meggs. "The SWAT team went in, surrounded the house and went inside and eventually located him inside the refrigerator of the home."

Police later learned that Henry was wearing his victim's clothing while he was hiding out.

"It was never determined if he was in fact a cross-dresser or if he was just doing this to elude capture by law enforcement by posing as a woman," said Meggs.

But they do know that Henry had serious issues with women, evident not only by his rap sheet, but by the female officers who tried to interview him after he was arrested.

"He got up out of the interview chair and got in a corner and pulled into the fetal position and would not look at the female officers while conducting the interview," said Sgt. Meggs.

Hayward Henry was eventually convicted of murder and seven sexual assaults and is now serving life in prison with no chance for parole.

But before he was sent to prison, Edwards believed she'd always be living in fear, serving her own life sentence too.

"Rapists don't rape one time. They've done it before and will do it again if they get away with it, so it's kind of empowering to get somebody locked up and put away for something they did to you," said Edwards.

She's now become a champion for change to get more support for victims and for funding rape kits like the one that helped catch her assailant.

"I think it's absolutely a disgrace that these rape kits are not tested. I think it should be a priority so that we can get these backlogs of rape kits tested and that we can match them to criminals," said Kassie Edwards. "We need to get those people locked up."

According to End the Backlog, a non-profit organization fighting to fix the problem, the state of Florida has more than 13,000 rape kits that are backlogged right now. States like California and Colorado have more than 6,000 kits that still need to be tested.

Monday, February 8, 2016

"I Dont See Color!" Said the White Blind Man to His Black Deaf Wife

"I dont see color"
"Black Lives Matter? How about ALL lives matter?"
"Why is there a black history month or BET?"
"Why is there so much division?"


Lets analyze these common statements from some ignorant people of non-color with "seemingly" good hippy intentions of inclusion and LOVE.
Look people, we know you are well intended with your euphoric, butterfly language of love and union and holding hands and kumbaya n shit, but Im gonna be curt.

You do see color. We ALL see color. 

The only person who can claim to not see color is a blind man and even then colors can be explained as emotions or feelings.

Lets get one thing straight. I want EVERYONE to see color. Being black is apart of who who I am. It shapes and molds a person culturally and socially. Being black is an indication of the kind of treatment I will get from another person. My struggles have made me the woman you see today. My triumphs and nappy hair are apart of my blackness and therefore apart of me. 

"Seeing no color" is a myth. Differences is what makes us a unique mix. You wouldn't puree a salad and serve it to someone would you? Why? Because each component adds a special flavor, texture, and shape. Their differences make the salad tasty. 

But Kassie "We're all the same on the inside..." 



No we're not, and if you told a Med School student we're all the same on the inside it would be *cringeworthy* Stand a male and a female next to each other. Cut them open. 
A man has a penis--I do not. 
A woman has a vagina--a man does not.  
Women have estrogen and breast.
Men have testosterone and facial hair.
These are things that make up apart of who we are. Emotionally women are nurturers and men are protectors and providers this is how God (and/or Mother Nature for the non-believers) made us. 

Why aren't we going around calling men and women the same--oh wait "we are" in the feminist movement (misnomer). Actually feminism is a movement to create the same OPPORTUNITIES for both sexes not a claim that men and women are physiologically the same. So if a woman wants to be a construction worker/soldier in battle/miner/ceo/main breadwinner she should have that right to do so and get paid the same (but let's save that for another blog post). The point is my color, your lack thereof, his ethnicity, her culture, his creed all these differences make for an interesting mix.

Lets not put my color in a blender to dissolve in some bland confused melting pot of culture. Let my color keep its flavor and shape and then add it to the other cultures in the pot to create a salad amalgamation of America.

A better statement: 
"I see your color but I don't care"

My last point is that even if you think you don't see color. Subconsciously--You DO! Its called implicit bias. Just below the surface of your conscious mind, you are making preferences, micro-judgements and decisions based on stereotypes, sensationalist media and your misguided perception. 

Something like 60% of Americans are biased towards white people. That means 60% of black and white people have a preference towards white people and subconsciously think black people are untrustworthy. Don't believe me just watch! Take the test, click here!

Even on a global scale color matters. Why? Because European Colonialist went around the world conquering black, yellow, brown nations and telling them their color is a problem and you shouldnt own this land because we the white imperialists can do a better job than your savage, primitive, dark complected tribe. 

West Indies.
Native Americans.
SE Asia.
South America.

And now 400 years later their offspring all of a sudden DONT want to see color? Nah homie, its gonna take more than 40 years of integration and tolerance to reverse what white european mass murderers like;
  • King Leopold II (10 Million Congolese) and 
  • Christopher Columbus (49 Million  American Indians) and 
  • Vasco Núñez de Balboa (2 Million indigenous central americans), 
  • German General Lothar von Trotha (110,000 Herero and Nama Africans), 
  • Hitler (11 million Jewish people, Gypsies, and Differently Abled people), 
  • European Slave Traders/Owners (11 Million Africans during the Middle Passage). 
  • Honorable mentions: Australian Aboriginals, Armenians, Rwandan Genocide...(probably another 2 Million)

OMG I could go on and on and on....but I won't because this shit is depressing and I got things to do today. And for all the people who have died to get me here--you WILL see my color and one day it WONT matter and you'll make no judgements or pre decisions or faulty conclusions because of it. But one day we all will see the power and the triumphant blessings of being black.

"I see your color but I don't care"

Monday, February 1, 2016

"OMG! I Think I'll Dress To Attract a White Boy"
(Said no black woman EVER)

I was having a discussion with a white gentleman (if I can even call him that) about interracial dating (is that even a real phenomenon since race "doesn't exist"?). He said to me, and I quote; "Well, maybe if they'd stop wearing those long fingernails--I mean how can they get any work done? We don't like that...and the weave too."



There just sooo much for me to unpack here.
I just can't. So I won't. Nah. I will. I said: "What makes you think women are saying to themselves, you know, I think I want to scoop me up a little Johnny, so I won't get my nails bedazzled this time Sui Ying, just give me the natural-catch-a-white-boy set..."

SECONDLY: "I thought we were discussing BLACK WOMEN not some stereotypical fantasy media served buffoonery you've secretly fetishized in your head--No just no."
LASTLY: "And even if a singular black woman chose to have long Godzilla nails (and I know a few who do) so the fuck what? Aint nobody waking up in the morning and saying 'OMG! I think I'll dress to attract a white boy today'!" #GiveMeABreak

And so it goes--the sentiments in this country regarding black women. We're loud, attitudinal, long fingernails and colorful weave. Wait, when Becky does it she's "alternative" when Sharkeisha does it, it's "ghetto". Are these the stereotypes that are holding us back from interracial dating? Then fine. So be it.

It's not even just a problem beladen on the shoulders of black women--its women of every ethnicity in this country--its as if women are on display for the sole gratification of men. I get it you like what you like. BUT, Its the stereotypes that have been fed to you, that you actually bought into without investigating for yourself that disturbs me.

Don't worry we have our stereotypes about you as well--and some of us have investigated and found it to be true ;-) But I'm not here to go tit-for-tat.

Let's analyze my theory for why there isn't more interracial dating. More than anything subculture is a means that divides us--in good and bad ways. Its called a Double Consciousness. Double Consciousness is a term coined by W. E. B. Du Bois to describe an individual whose identity is divided into several facets. As a theoretical tool, “double consciousness” reveals the psycho-social divisions in American society and allows for a full understanding of those divisions. (DuBois, Souls of Black Folks)

For a long period of time black people were not allowed to fully participate in mainstream American culture. Slave masters deprived Africans of their cultural customs by enacting slave codes. Therefore they had to navigate in unfamiliar territory by cultivating this new culture. Black Culture.

The assorted stereotypes of being "loud", good at dancing, fixing elaborate hairstyles, being lyrical, good cooks, etc. These are all Africanisms, characteristics of African culture that can be traced through societal practices and institutions of the African diaspora. Of course they are exaggerated for the entertainment of people who are not apart of the movement. That's why it's called a STEREO-type. The type has some truth but the stereo exaggerates and warps the truth into a tacky version of its former self.

Instead of balking at colorful weaves and its apparent "tackiness", we should be trying to understand the history. African women have been weaving and locking their hair as part of a cultural custom.

Another white wonderment; Why do some black people have a slight propensity at being lyrical artists? In many African societies there was no formal written language (actually up until 770BC Europe also did not have a written language until the Romans borrowed from the Phoenicians and the Phoenicians from AFRICAN Hieroglyphics) West African cultures used Griots to pass down oral history. Stories and rituals were beaten on drums in special synchronizations with body movements. Hence our seemingly natural love of beats and freestyling.

I'm being very loose and anecdotal here but do you get my drift? Of course, these stereotypes and Africanisms do not apply to EVERY single black person. Every black person is not going to be a good, beat boxing, dancing, rapping, shuckin n jivin negro. These are cultural mannerisms and customs passed down from generation to generation. This is why there is a serious need for cross cultural education. In school we learn so much about European culture and customs (which by the way are derived from Africa) that when it comes to Africanisms they seem foreign to us.

Some stereotypes exist because of appalling reasons. For instance, the alleged propensity for black men to be good at sports. Theory has it that slave masters made enslaved African women breed with the strongest men in an attempt to yield the strongest "buck".

OK lets get it out the way. The Mandingo theory. Yes its true--somewhat--by .1 inches -_- according to a Kinsey Report in the 1970s which included only 54 black men and 3000 white men in the USA.
However, according to one Global report produced by EveryoneWeb the Democratic Republic of Congo has the largest average erect length at 7.1 inches compared to the world average of 5.5 inches.

I hope I have inspired someone to expand their curiosity outside the box of their limited scope. #LetItMarinate